Bride and Bridegroom Selection-our doings
Bride and Bridegroom Selection-our doings
To ensure the existence of human civilization century after century, marital tie has been a key convention and admitted process by all means and thought of the society from the aborigin to today’s geared era.All and sundry, in all religion, it has a positive direction. In the last 50 years, the way guardians would find bride or bridegroom has totally been changed now-a-days. I am putting some real aspect of past in which way and on what scale, guardians had been used to finding bride and bridegroom matches for their offspring. It is relevant to bring forward that they would look for the virtues of bride or bridegroom rather than finding the social status and wealth. Their assumption in that stage was that a virtuous couple will linger their tie till death with happiness and merriful manner. It is absolutely true that guardian’s choice and decision would get priority and they were given value in respect of bride and bridegroom selection. Because of that, social fabric was so tightened and family bondage was also full of peace. Senior citizens of that period could utilise their life experience in regard to select bride and bridegroom which is completely absurd in this era. No telling to say that people in the past would not become as much greedy as today’s guardians. They did not run after wealth rather they would be busy in search of a decent, lucid and innocent bride and bridegroom. But sorrowful matter is that now-a-day, almost 95% guardians are enthusiastic to let their son and/or daughter marry with affluent, socially established family, beautiful to look at and so on. But in fact, they overlook the inner beauty, talency, morality, honesty and good character of a bride or bridegroom. Virtually, to write on this, I recollect some bitter but true story in this connection which should for obvious reason, be given up from my memory. However, Every guardians want a good bride or bridegroom. But in real sense, what they do mean by the term “good” is not clear to me. According to 95% guardians, a good bride or bridegroom means a bank of money and wealth nothing more than this. At first instance, guardians ask what is the profession of the bride or bridegroom? How much he or she earns per month? How large or small their family? Is there any car, flat, and land in the Capital City in the name of bride or bridegroom? How tall or Short the bride or bridegroom is the matter to them. How does the bride or bridegroom look like is also an important factor to today’s greedy guardians. Only a few guardians look for honest, educated, Lucid, decent and naturally adorn bride or bridegroom. They do not give first priority of their car, flat and land. Because of being too much choosy, thousands of bride and bridegroom are not being able to find their desired match. In most of the cases, guardians make delay to find out and search for their opted rich bride or bridegroom. At present, it has been a social disease to tell some one with proud that I have given my son or daughter marry with a so much influential and rich bride or bridegroom. They do not even think whether the character of that so called rich are up to the mark or not . Significantly, it can be pointed out that because of social stigma and superstitution, some important medical test issues are not given priority while choosing bride and bridegroom. We should remember a marital tie is a concrete bond. It has borderless potentiality for bringing the next world generations. So, keeping in mind, we should not hesitate to ask for some test done by the bride and bridegroom. Such as, HBS, Blood group, HIV, HSV1, HSV2, Serum creatine, LFT, Testosterone & estrogen hormones ,prolactin etc. For a healthy and happy conjugal life all the above noted tests should be done by the individual bride and bridegroom to avoid the divorce just after marriage. If I go on writing continuously on this issue, it’s possible; but actually, I no longer want to linger my writes up except putting some observations for selecting bride and bridegroom. |Let us check the rate of separation, divorce and family disputes by way of thinking deeply and taking decision accordingly at the time of selection of any bride and bridegroom. In fact, we need to give more priority on the education, character, honesty, morality, integrity, laboriousness and family tradition & history when looking for any bride or bridegroom. We must not think about the earnings and assets of the bride or bridegroom. Today the earning and assets of an honest and educated bride or bridegroom may be less significant but in future it is absolutely possible to earn for an honest bride or bridegroom. So, we can, need and should give value the inner beauty, honesty and education of bride and bridegroom, not the assets and earning when looking for a match. The writer is an advocate of the Supreme Court of Bangladesh who can be reached at supremecourtlawyer.bd.ukagmail.com. web:mrjohn-edu.com.